Posted on
02 July 2010, under
Dad-To-Be; More Dad-To-Be articles...
Mums the word...
Yes, it was planned and yes, it’s still a shock.
Third time round and I think that we’re more anxious than we were for our first.
We have two beautiful girls under five and we were planning to conceive our third child in the coming months but we got an early present. So we were a little bit surprised but absolutely delighted.
Also the fact that the likelihood is that this is our last child makes me savour all the various moments all the more. Like the excitement of the pregnancy test or the telling of the good news to the grandparents. However, I’m sure my wife doesn’t savour the morning nausea in the same way!!
As soon as Mum found out, the nausea and extra tiredness set in within days. Is it just me or do mothers at this stage become withdrawn? From the initial euphoria, it goes to very early nights, not much to say and general quietness. Is Mum getting herself ready, not only physically, but also psychologically for the coming weeks? I didn’t get a definitive answer when I asked. All I know is that Dads start to feel a little left out also. It’s like Mum is starting the bonding process with her little baby, while Dad is in the background doing increasingly more of the chores.
Still a few weeks away from telling the good news to everyone and it can be hard to keep one’s counsel. I definitely do not understand the preoccupation of not telling anyone for 3 months. If, God forbid, the worst were to happen, surely you do not want to go through that nightmare without any support, love or help from your close relatives and friends. We have told the grandparents and closer siblings which I think is right.
I cannot wait for the reaction from our two girls to the news. The eldest will be delighted as she has dealt with this type of intrusion before but what of our youngest now. She is going to be in that dreaded middle position and will soon lose the baby status in our family. I’m sure that it’s nothing that a few extra hugs won’t cure – I hope!!
Back to top ^